Rapport in death

Wikipedia says “The word Rapport stems from the old French verb rapporter which means literally to carry something back. What a person sends out, the other sends back – They are in sync.” Yesterday, while in a meditative state, I was struck by this thought – Am I ready to accept death as a blessing? Can I accept that there could be rapport in death? Death – as applied to many different contexts – death of self, death to self, death of a loved one.

My thought process ran amok with startled thoughts and ideas. I remembered a Bible verse which says “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit”: John 12:24. I thought this was worth dwelling over. Could one ever be in rapport with death? One of the many definitions of death is a cessation of breathing, a termination or extinction of something. If so, how does death bear fruit?

Those who've experienced meditation will understand that we become aware of ourselves (self-awareness) when we extinguish the cacophony of noise that surround us. We become aware of our innermost being when we plough through the multitude of thoughts, ideas and feelings that flood our minds 24/7/365, to the deepest recesses of our being, where everything but “I, me, myself”, is dead. When we reach our deepest recesses, we reach a place of tranquility  resourcefulness, life-giving sustenance and a deep sense of communion with that part of ourselves which is called by different names by different people -the ‘Unconscious’ (as it outside of conscious thought and feeling) or the ‘Spirit’ .  When in this place, going by personal experience, the so called facets of life – sound, feeling, thoughts, words, actions – become immaterial. A state of rapport exists – between self (conscious self) and our innermost self (unconscious self). In death then, are we truly alive. We become dead to thoughts, words, sounds and feelings and become aware of the still quiet voice within us, which comes to life and becomes heard in the absence of the humdrum of daily life.

How about getting in rapport with the death of a loved one? The act of getting in communion with one’s innermost self is in itself an act which requires no words, thoughts, action or bodily interpretation. At the deepest level of rapport with another person, it’s an unconscious one and has no rhyme or reason or explanation. So what difference does the presence or absence of the bodily form of another person make to the rapport that exists between the two? Rapport between persons in its purest form is a communion of two souls, two spirits - when we can reach down deep inside ourselves and know that we touch and are in sync with the other. When we reach this level of rapport – we can truly count death in every form as a blessing.